Today marks eleven years since our ajji/ pati passing away. Pati is my mother in law’s mom. She was Suseela to most relatives even those younger to her. My husband called her amma and to me and my son, she was pati. I lived with her for nearly 17 years, that I find it difficult to say, my husband’s grandmother. She is my own. Pati was born in an era where educating a girl child, that too a widow was considered a sacrilege. She was 9 years old when she got married and was wido