Today marks twelve years since the passing of our ajji/paati. Paati is mother-in-law's mother. She was addressed as Suseela even by her nephews and nieces. My husband addressed her as amma. To my son and I, she was paati. I lived with her for so long that I find it difficult to call her the grandmother of my husband. She is mine. Paati was born during a time when educating a girl, especially a widow, was considered blasphemous. She was 9 years old when she married and 18 year